Thursday, October 05, 2006

How to Make Friends (A Frugal Priority)

In light of having depression and loneliness on my mind, I would like to propose godly friends as a frugal alternative to many things: therapy, herbal supplements, vacations, and divorce, to name a few.

Over the past few years, though, I have been pondering how we make friends. We are often told, "if you want to have friends, you have to be one", and certainly that is true, but I have also made the following observations:

  • As you spend time with a person, you become more comfortable with them. Especially powerful is the potential of frequent, regular communication.

During three separate summers when my kids were little, I baby-sat (no charge) for friends who were single mothers. Every morning they would drop off, every afternoon they would pick up. Sometimes they'd stay and visit, other times it was very brief. Effortlessly, our relationship grew.

  • Sometimes God will move you to make a commitment to a certain person, a commitment to be their friend.

Some of my favorite friends are this kind. They do take time and effort, and sometimes the relationship seems to grow slowly.

  • Last, not least, are the instant friends. Those people you just connect with.

In His word, Jesus calls His disciples friends. We can grow that relationship by spending regular time together and by being committed to Him, after being instantly connected.

More Frugal Friday tips at Biblical Womanhood.

Hey Frugal People, and other readers, would you please leave a comment if you think I should continue this blog? You see, my workshop that I have been preparing will be over tomorrow. But I think I still have more words.


At 2:12 PM, Blogger Jennifer said...

I think you should continue this blog! The topic is different enough from both of your other ones... whenever you have a Titus 2 thought, leave it for us!

At 4:53 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Making friends is not a frugal priority - I dont get that reference by the way. Do you think God made this world for a laugh - or as a nasty trick - or for humans to grow, love, heal, develop and be kind, and to enjoy? You choose.


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